The title of this blog post is a purposeful exaggeration. Here's the real title: practice reveals everything. If you commit to a practice—any practice—you see all of yourself. You see resistance, curiosity, judgment, joy, freedom, and doubt. There's no escape from yourself and that's the point: you show up and you stay.
Happiness
When I ask myself, "Am I happy?" it's not related to my particular mood or situation. It's an over-arching question about contentment, ease, and well-being. Happy moods pass, just as fearful moods pass. My brain—the human brain—is not structured to be continuously happy. And that's a freeing realization. I can stop chasing happiness. Society might tell me, "put on a happy face!" but I don't have to.
Making Space
Yesterday I looked at my daily planner—crammed with tasks in small font—and felt my anxiety rise. We just returned from a weekend of travel and heavy socialization. I was in busyness mindset—a view that limits my choices. I thought I should push through my exhaustion. But instead of pushing, I decided to pause.
My Facebook Dilemma
Years ago, I made choices that improved my quality of life: no TV reception; no newspapers; minimal Internet news; no Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram; no smart phone; daily meditation; weekly connection with friends; increased time outdoors; morning and bedtime routines. These purposeful choices mirror what I value most: awareness, connection, curiosity, integrity, and kindness.